Brock Lawley, the Atheist Antidote: Hard Core Points Against Porn

Straight up. I dig sex. I dig sex like a woman digs chocolate. It’s friggin’ sweet! Sex however is a strange thing. In the sense that throughout history people have put so little value on something almost everybody wants.

Sex is treated frivolously.

Porn, strip clubs, prostitution, one night stands, friends with benefits, etc.

As I mention in my book WEAPON OF A.S.S. DESTRUCTION regarding teenagers who get defensive and say, “It’s only sex, what’s the big deal?”

Well if it’s no big deal, why are you such a hurry to have it? Going around listening to Katy Perry glorifying sex as a teenage dream in skin tight jeans, if I can borrow her lyrics.

Sex is a thing of value. I reckon it is pretty valuable since it’s how we get here. But when a thing of value isn’t respected, and maintained, it starts to malfunction, and in the human condition it’s dysfunction.

Again, I’m no saint, but I’ve seen what effect things like porn has on people. It’s disturbing. The last time I watched porn was several years ago, kickin’ it with the dudes. And then I realized… I’m in a room with a bunch of dudes…

And then there were the objectifying words towards the female in the picture, and others just gazed at the T.V.; a look in their eye that I decided I never wanted to have. I left. -Zo

Check out Brock lay down the Lawley on Porn.



  • This is the most ridiculously uneducated, biased thing I’ve wasted my time with in a long time.

    Pornography is no more a danger to anyone’s perception than someone watching a Disney movie.

    I stumbled upon porn far before I had any experiences with women, yet none of my partners have been alienated, demeaned, or dissatisfied. If you honestly believe that being exposed to this niche of our culture has that much of a development factor, maybe you should look at your own upbringing. This is the classic Nature v. Nurture argument and it just shows how religious people can’t begin to cope with how their lifestyle makes them desensitized on a regular basis.

    • Interesting defensive response. If you read any interviews given by mass rapists and murderers you will notice that in every single one the rapist/murderer talks about having an obsession with porn, especially that of the S&M/Violence against women variety. Not a single one of them ever reference Disney movies, tho.

      “I stumbled upon porn far before I had any experiences with women, yet none of my partners have been … dissatisfied.”

      *Snicker*

      Oh, you men and your dreams. Check out the Seinfeld episode “The Mango” I believe it is Season 5 episode 1.

    • pearl87

      I’ll bet the women unfortunate enough to have been involved with you would tell a different tale. Men whose minds are polluted with the sludge of porn don’t even know they’ve been wounded…but the women do. If you are also involved with men, this is another sign of the restless, insatiable demon you have unleashed on yourself.

  • Anonymous

    I agree…and I wish I could stop. But it seems I’m unable. And I hate it.

    • There are places where you can get help; Google Pornography Addiction Help and you’ll see all sorts of places which can offer help. You CAN quit; there is help available. You can also find it locally through your Yellow Pages. If you’re Catholic, discuss it with your Priest; he can help, they’re good at counseling.

    • You don’t need to stop. Enjoy, have a good time with yourself there is no harm unless you believe a sky daddy will burn you forever because he loves you so much. Read some books and learn about human sexuality as opposed to Christian sexuality. Christian sexuality bears no resemblance to human sexuality.

  • Don the case I am making in the video is clear. Porn robs the individual of what sexuality is meant to offer. Moreover, it renders monogamy much more difficult for men who long to be faithful men of character. A list unearthing pornography’s destructive underbelly could fill the pages Obama-care is written on so I’ll simply say this. If you watch porn, try giving it up for a month. If your self-discipline even allows such a venture see if you notice anything different about the way you view both sex and women.
    Thanks for the Commentary. I enjoy the market place of ideas.

  • Rachell Muszynski

    I personally know several people who have (and still do) struggle with porn addiction. They will all readily admit that it has directly impacted their view of others as well as their view of themselves. It is very destructive – and that’s even before you start to consider all of the horrors that make up the porn industry itself.

    Thank you so much for your commentary! It was well thought out and very well delivered.

  • jim

    sex is a beatuful experence if treated right but if you don’t want children leave it alone

  • pearl87

    you’re a man of honor; thanks for this talk. I know a few who can use it.

  • You make a fundamental error in logic. Your personal experience is not a scientific observation. Observation of a small group of men watching porn, is not scientific. Whatever your personal hangups about porn, they do not translate into a universal principle for all men. I notice that you leave women out entirely. Do you not realize how much women use porn as well? I would also suggest that whether you are looking at porn and masturbating or not, you are still using porn. Self stimulation requires visualization in most men. As a result, you are creating porn in your mind as you masturbate. The images you concoct are pornographic. As a man, you are hard wired to respond to visual stimulation. You see an attractive woman walking down the sidewalk, you will respond unconsciously. 50 years of research has so far found no harm in pornography. Men who use it are as good or better lovers than those who claim they don’t. Women who use it are creative and less inhibited. Most people who have difficulty with pornography also have a good deal of difficulty with their own sexuality which may lead to difficulty in relationships.

    Since you are an atheist, I assume you prefer to be reality based. Take a look at the research. Listen to Dan Savage, read my book Sex and God. Read Sex at Dawn by Ryan and Jetha. You will find that even chimps respond to porn – chimp porn or course. We are primates and we love sex in all its many forms. You seem to think there is only one type of sex. Using porn is just a type of sex not to be confused with all the other types of sex.

    Finally, you seem to think that monogamy is the default position for humans. Read The Myth of Monogamy by Barash and Lipton. Chances are you actually know no one who is truly monogamous – on sex partner for life. all the best in your research.

  • Rebecca

    Dr. Ray expressed most of what I have to say quite clearly. However, it seems important to state my agreement, as a woman.

    I would add this:

    Do media have an effect on thinking and behavior? Yes. All media do, with popular, mainstream media having a way greater effect than porn. Fashion magazines, for example, play a role in establishing and enforcing the pressure which leads women to be hyper-crytical of their own and other women’s bodies. Fox News plays a role in scapegoating immigrants and promoting hatred of gays and lesbians. Certain hip-hop artists glamorize gun violence and abuse of women.

    Does this mean that we should all swear off magazines, news programs and FM radio? No, it means that we have a personal responsibility to be picky about what we read, watch and listen to.

    “Pornography” includes a broad range of books, magazines, live performances and videos, from the unionized dancers of the Lusty Lady theater and the erotic stories of Greta Christina, to the Playboy centerfolds and Jenna Jameson videos of mainstream porn, to the highly-specialized magazines and videos produced for niche audiences such as foot fetishists and rope-bondage aficionados. There is pornography that is as life and love-affirming as the best atheist bloggers and pornography that is as woman-hating as the worst right-wing politicians and a whole LOT of pornography that simply reinforces the same norms as the rest of mainstream media. I trust good people who enjoy pornography, but find their psyches adversely affected by insulting and oppressive images of women, to seek out the best and eschew the worst.

    Finally, to say that “Pornography robs the individual of what sexuality is meant to offer” is to make narrow assumptions about the pornography, the individual and about what sexuality is “meant” to offer. Assuming pornography is all the same is a mistake that might arise from lack of familiarity. But to assume that all individuals are like yourself, or to assume that sexuality is “meant” to offer the same thing to everyone else as you seek from it, is arrogant and insulting to the rest of us.

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